How to Keep a Clean Home When Your Husband is a Slob
I absolutely adore my husband. He works hard, he loves our babies, and treats me exactly as a good man should. But I’m going to be straight with you right now: he doesn’t have any clue how to keep a clean home. We can’t have it all, right?
That’s right, I said it.
My husband is a great guy, but a messy guy. He knows it, I know it, and we love each other anyway.
So, how does one keep a clean home when their husband isn’t the cleanest guy on the block? I’ll tell you!
Side note: my husband is fully aware of this article and gave me the “okay” to publish, so don’t feel too sorry for him. And, this article probably contains affiliate links. You can read my full disclosure here.
So, keeping a clean home when your hubby is a slob….
It’s not easy, but if it matters to you, you can absolutely make it happen.
1. First, create a cleaning schedule.
You can refer to my speed-cleaning checklist if you need help getting started.
Having a clean, organized home is really important to me. I want my home to be a happy, peaceful place where anyone can pop in and visit without me feeling embarrassed. So I’m personally willing to take on the job of keeping it how I want it, even if my husband doesn’t quite understand the importance. It doesn’t have to be spotless, just reasonably clean and comfortable for my family and friends.
So yes, even though my husband is a bit on the messy side, I don’t mind doing whatever it takes to keep my home clean.
If you want your house to be clean (like I do), then create a daily cleaning schedule that works for your family, and stick to it as best you can. This will help you to keep your house in order most of the time.
** Let me take a quick minute to add that my husband does help with quick evening cleanups and helps me with our weekend clean. When I say he’s “a slob”, I don’t mean that viciously. But he tends to leave messes behind as he goes about his day, and he doesn’t clean them up until the mess is overflowing and driving me crazy. So it’s partially his messiness and partially my OCD that leads me to call him names. Don’t judge me.
2. Secondly, have “the talk.”
Your husband needs to know how you feel and what you expect from him, and vice versa. Marriage is all about communication and compromise, right? So, don’t hesitate to talk to your hubby and try to come up with a solution that you can both be happy with. If he can help you clean on weekends, great. If he can watch the kids while you clean, that’s great too. Try to be reasonable and patient when you chat with him about your plans to improve your home and keep it clean. Sometimes talking it out really does help.
I can honestly say that we’ve had some great talks and a few ugly fights over house cleaning. When we first got married, my husband really didn’t understand what the big deal was about leaving dirty clothes on the floor or dishes all over the house. Oh, my obsessively clean mind just couldn’t stand it! Through some honest talks and some unpleasant arguments, we have learned to overcome the big issues and work through the little ones.
3. Also, learn to compromise.
My husband is great at compromising and he understands WHY I want a clean home. So that’s a good start.
We can easily make little compromises that keep us both happy. For example, he doesn’t leave dirty dishes on any counters or tables around the house anymore. But his bedside table is his “carefree” zone. I never clean it for him, and I never nag him about cleaning it. He can leave as many dirty dishes as he wants over there, and I have just learned not to look at it.
Do I hate it? Yes, absolutely.
Have I learned to live with it and let it go? I hate to admit it, but yes, I have. Pick your battles, ladies. This one isn’t worth fighting.
4. And…learn to have a sense of humor.
My husband has an awesome sense of humor. Hence, the reason he allowed me to publish this article.
We often laugh about his messy nature or his inherent tendency to procrastinate. He really does TRY to do better and be better, so I have learned to just laugh about it and let him figure it out in his own time…for the most part.
Every now and then, I’ll look at his bedside table and just give him this look that says “seriously?” He reads my mind and we both just start laughing our heads off, because we both know…he’s a slob and he’s driving me crazy with his messes. I’m sure I’m driving him crazy with my obsessive need to clean! We’re both so much happier when we laugh together over these little things.
5. Expect a clean home.
This sounds totally jerky and arrogant, but let me explain. Expectations are important. Teachers expect their students to listen, employers expect their employees to work, authorities expect their citizens to comply, etc. And guess what? It’s OK for spouses to have expectations of each other too.
When we know what is expected of us, it is easier to make our relationships work. My husband and I expect each other to be faithful, loyal, and supportive until death parts us, right? Well, it doesn’t hurt to have a few household expectations too.
Now, I’ll admit, that my expectations for a clean home are a little high. I have to lower them a bit so that everyone in my home is happy. And that’s okay!
But I still make sure my husband knows that I expect him to pull his weight as much as possible. He works a hard, laborous job and he goes above and beyond for his kids, so I don’t expect him to put on a flower apron and scrub the floors. Just help with tidy up now and then and limit the careless messes.
That is our middle ground. And we’re both happy with it.
It’s okay to admit that your house gets messy and your husband is a slob. I love my hubs, but it still drives me crazy when he wakes me up at 2 AM, crunching on hot Cheetos, on my white bed sheets. Like I said, we can’t have it all.
Don’t let your dream of a designer home sap your peace of mind and your family’s happiness. Stick with your cleaning schedule, lower your standards just a little bit, and don’t be afraid to ask for some help when you really need it.
Now tell me, what are your tips for keeping a clean home when it’s filled with messy husbands and children? Share in the comments!