When you first find out that you’re pregnant, so many things go spinning through your mind. For me, it was just the simple realization that I would have to grow this baby from scratch, and then take it home and keep it alive somehow! But what about those women who were told they could not get pregnant? Those women who thought they would never be able to have a child of their own? What happens when one of these women see those two little lines on a pregnancy test?
Well today, I interviewed one of the most real, raw, and inspirational ladies that I know, and I was able to ask her some personal questions about her journey into motherhood. Let me introduce the lovely, Anna. My honest and outspoken, gamer gal-pal from southern California! Here is what she had to say:
1. What was the first thing that went through your head when you found out you were pregnant?
“Finally!!” Considering that I was told I may never be able to have children, and after probably 25 pregnancy tests over the 6 years my fiancé and I have been together, I was shocked. I was scared. But so over the moon that here I was, huddled in our bathroom, trying not to wake him up, staring down a “pregnant 3+ weeks” screen.
2. What are some of the funny things people would say or do during your pregnancy that made you wish it could be over?
Oh, man. My coworkers loved to ask me “How much weight have you gained?” like I didn’t feel big or crappy enough. I’m sure it was just out of interest, because most of them hadn’t really had a pregnant friend, but even still, every time I was asked that, I had to keep my eyes from rolling into the back of my head and letting out a groan of disgust. And of course the typical “Don’t touch my belly” I had to slap a few wrists in my 9 months.
3. What is your greatest struggle as a new mom?
Definitely keeping my relationship between my fiancé and I in a good place. People say the first year of having a baby is the hardest on you and your significant other, I just didn’t realize how much truth there was in that. It’s hard to turn off my “mom brain” and have a nice moment with him. After a while it started to become the “norm” that our interactions include not much more than handing the baby off to one another so we could have our own moment of peace, but we’re almost out of that first year, so here’s hoping things get easier!
4. Do you have any words of advice for other moms that are trying to juggle secular work and a new baby?
It’s not easy. Ever. Every day I feel like “why did I go back to work? I feel like like a crap mom! I miss her so much!” But then I remember my mom going off to work every day, and I don’t remember missing her (although I’m sure I did.) But instead what I remember is how happy I was when she was home. I’ve grown up with an appreciation for all that my mom did for us. I guess what I’d tell a mom going back to work is just keep your head up, your spirits high, and don’t think of what you could be missing; instead, think of the moment you get home to kisses and cuddles, and how you’re setting your child up to have a healthy understanding of hard work, dedication, and responsibilities.
5. If you could tell your daughter one thing that would help her become a better woman when she grows up, what would you tell her?
Wow. So many things come to mind. Be strong. Be confident. Don’t let anyone push you around. Hold yourself to a standard that YOU want to meet, not what others expect from you. I think that’s the most important. The minute you start trying to live up to other people’s expectations or standards that you wouldn’t set for yourself and you don’t meet them, is when you can feel like you’ve failed them, and that’s not okay. Don’t live for other people, live for yourself!
Like I said, the most real and raw, honest and outspoken woman you’ll ever meet! Thank you Miss Anna, for sharing your awesome mommy wisdom with us today. Winry is a lucky girl to call you her Mama…And now, let’s see that cute little blondie of yours!