Pearls for my Daughter

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There is nothing more that I can hope for, but to see my daughter grow up to be a strong, kind, and humble person. As I get to know her in this tiny little infant body, I realize that there are many lessons she will need to learn as she grows, and there is so much that I want to tell her. Some are things that I wish someone had told me as a child, and some are pearls of wisdom I have learned along my own journey. I can only hope that one day she can look back on my words and learn from them as I have…

My daughter, when people are unkind to you, waste no time being upset. Perhaps they are going through something that is making them sad, angry, or bitter. Perhaps they are just mean people. But that has nothing to do with you. So take a deep breath my sweet girl, and rise above their unkindness.

When you are wrong, own up to it, and say you’re sorry. We all make mistakes and we all do selfish things, sometimes even intentionally. There is nothing worse than making a mistake and then pushing the blame onto someone else. Own what you’ve done, apologize for the wrong, and move forward.

In the words of Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”

When your daddy says that you’re not allowed to date that boy, you need to listen to him. He wants what is best for you and he knows how to protect you. So let him do it.

When you look in the mirror, trust that what you are seeing is beautiful; flawed, but perfect at the same time. You are uniquely and perfectly YOU, and it will be that way for the rest of your life. So get used to it, and embrace every moment.

Brush and floss your teeth every day, they will be an important part of your life and you don’t want to lose them.

Remember that your parents are imperfect people; we are flawed and we will make mistakes. We will do our best to help you become a happy, healthy, and capable adult. But when we screw up (and we will screw up), please forgive us and remember that we love you.

Laugh as much as you possibly can. Laughter truly is the best medicine, so find the humor in everyday life. If anyone tries to quiet your laughter, walk away from them, you don’t need that negativity.

Appreciate everything that you have. Sometimes you will have an abundance and sometimes you will have just enough. Say thank you, and mean it. Life is not about having “things”. It is about making memories with the people that love you.

My daughter, you are so loved. If I could protect you from any ounce of pain or sadness, I would do it at any cost. I will always be here for you; a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, a friend to laugh with and love.

Article by: Cate Rosales

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4 thoughts on “Pearls for my Daughter

  1. martinmelville says:

    Saw your post on “Bloggers Meetup.” Followed your invitation. Nice writing.

    The actual goal of parenting is to raise children who are capable of making unsupervised decisions that are ethically and morally acceptable. In the same vein as making cookies, allow kids to take risks and succeed while supervised, like spotting them the first few times they cross the monkeybars.
    Concerning pain: it happens. Sometimes (like it or not) pain is a more effective teacher than success. But when things don’t go her way, you are right to want to be there for her with a hug or a kiss on a skinned knee. Then talk about choices and decisions and cause and effect. Give her the tools she’ll need when you can’t be there.

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  2. In The Lyons Den says:

    Hi Cate,
    I came across your blog just recently. I love what you have written. I have a son and a daughter and so many of these things rang true for me too. One thing for me was that I always thought my parents were perfect and never made mistakes which eventually I learnt that becoming an adult doesn’t make you perfect. That is one thing I want to teach the kids is like what you said that it is okay to make mistakes, we all do it even the parents. I am teaching my 7 year old son about this at the moment after an small incident at school. He struggles when he makes mistakes with dealing with his own emotions about it. Such loving and caring words that you have written. I look forward to following your blog and reading more. 🙂

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    • Cate says:

      Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful comment to me, I am overwhelmed with appreciation…and I couldn’t agree more; I always thought my dad was perfect, and seeing him make mistakes as I got older came as a bit of a shock. It is important to teach our kids that we all make mistakes, even parents. We learn from them and move on. I hope the best for you and your family! And I’ll check out your work as well!

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